Today marks thirteen years that my husband and I have been married, and as a couple, we couldn’t be happier! But it hasn’t always been sunshine and roses; we had some very hard years together. Actually, you could say our marriage has never been easy since we’ve had to deal with circumstances and issues most married people do not. There were two really really bad years though:
In 2004/05, I nearly left him because I was having a hard time dealing with the rough side of being a custodial step-mom (it was not the kids fault, but the parents). When he started having medical problems, I decided to stand by my man, through the good times and bad. Little did I know that the bad were just starting.
In 2007, he nearly left me after almost two really bad years…until he realized I was dealing with an almost disabling level of depression that had me reluctant to leave my house. I tried to hide from the world, and he refused to let me. He stood by me and pulled me out of my funk.
Since then, we’ve not had any major issues. Sure, we’ve struggled financially, we’ve fought, as all married couples do…but by the Grace of God, we are once again HAPPY and blessed to have each other. We are the happiest we’ve ever been since the day we said our vows. We have truly become best friends, and I can honestly say I love him more today than I did the day I married him.
If more people would stick it out, during the hard times and sick times, there would not be so much divorce. Too many people are willing to run at the first sign of trouble. I’m glad we chose to take our vows seriously and stay together during the good times and bad, during sickness and health…until death parts us (which will hopefully be a hundred years down the road…we plan to make it in the Guinness World Records as oldest living married couple).
One of our elders at church complimented us recently about how well we were handling the trials we are going through now, how he has seen other people who have went through similar circumstances and let their marriage fall apart. We looked at each other…looked at him…and each said, “We’re best friends. We love each other. And God’s got this.”
My husband and I know that the hard years is what prepared us for this year. We are stronger than ever and we will handle anything thrown our way. We will overcome. With God on our side, who can be against us?
Happy Anniversary to the funniest and most loving man I know, my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my hero, my protector, my provider, my husband, Rick! You will always have my heart! I can’t wait to spend the next
fifty one hundred plus years by your side!